I find it quite sad honestly. If we start to hide and monitor bank accounts so the money part, you lose all confidence and sincerity in the pair. At least I see it.

Your salary are you a man?

OscarAlacant: As I say in the post, hide it from the accounts, though there is not a common case.

jurejure: Yeah, right.

Strange to say the least. You may have its explanation in that women typically are responsible for keeping house and keep the domestic economy will be among its work. What I do not think is right to open accounts without knowing the other member. And the opposite happens as if the woman works and the husband takes care of the house?

Greetings!

It would cost me nothing to work hard without seeing a whim my money ...
I and I have to control enough of my own, but could not bear another controlling "all" my money for me u_u
What would I do without my whims!?

Anyway, if I eventually pays to buy a car with the money saved (I do not have to divert money from accounts xD) I'll stay calmer: 3

When husband and wife work, what happens? Or is that not very common for women to work?

Here in Mexico, there are cases in which the master of the house gives all the money to the lady and just as she manages, even though our society is very sexist and in many cases is the man who gives the Mrs. "expenditure" for home purchases and payments.

Otherwise, 1000 or 2000 yen, it is not sooo tight for a day??

It is an obligation that the deposit is to account for it? or is an unwritten social convention?

Some men are "emancipated" to break with this?

Man, it almost seems to me almost a lack of confidence, right? If it's not typical but they did something .. The husband would spend it all?

If she is cheating on him with the "second false account" that kind of marriage is that?

a greeting!

This is the first time I write and I just wanted to let you know you have another follower of your blog from Mexico.
Almost since you began what I read and I find it wonderful the way in which relatas your experience.
Thanks for offering your readers nosostros a vision of what is Japan.

Lack of confidence I have read out there, well, actually that's marriage in Japanese society (not all, but in general) an "agreement" where the interests of various kinds imposed end up in a slave society of an outdated mentality sexist. Again, unfortunately, in general.
Regards

Palcraft: The opposite case is something that does not happen. I've never heard of a Japanese family that women work and man.

Edmund: Well, that depends on the house, but surely will be women.

Edmund: It's little but if you only have your food and not whims goes smoothly.
It is not an obligation, is a habit. The family that anyone can break this of course, in my case for example we have 3 accounts, one of Ayumi, a mine and we enter a common money every month.

Quicoto: Of course it's to better manage money. Many Japanese see if it would go a pocket full of cups, etc. to pachinkos continually.

Hello Alain ..

I think it's the first time I write and read your blog in a while, I think more than a year when he was collecting material relating to my thesis and "fell" by accident on this corner and was immediately hooked. Since then I read it forever.

With regard to the issue raised. I find it amazing, miss my friends who are married say that they are rationed monies paid and if the lady works, as both have separate account and go. If that situation were to happen here in my country (that of giving full pay to the lady) and friends came to find out would be the target of many jokes and it would be "submitted".

EMO, I think it is an aspect of social behavior of the Japanese family, the woman takes care of the house and kids and manages the money how thorough accountant. The theme is outdated and perhaps for many families is the best. What if I'm wondering is when the husband wants to be a deluxe how do you say it to the lady? IE: "My love I want to buy that computer mnusical've always dreamed of having, give me the money?" Darne enl will access money?

Greetings Alain, and do not stop writing that I find quite entertain your blog.

Regards

In parts of Africa do not provide microloans to the men because they are spent on booze and hookers, however, other countries of South America do not give them to women because so wasted. It's a cultural thing.
Maybe if they left the money to men in Japan it would spend a lot, unlike if you leave it to Spanish, which would be managed properly (or so), yet I feel healthier and Spain, that two decide on the expenditure-this being the norm.

Japanese behavior another horrible for the list.

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I was also the first time I write here but long ago that I follow the blog.

What you say about that husbands are paid by women and they are the ones that manage all the money ... I do not sound too weird. In fact in my region, or at least in the area where I live is unusual. I live in a village north of Extremadura and has always been the case here. Women manage the money and give them a husband pays to go for a drink if they want. At least the elderly, but I know it happens between young couples.

Perhaps Japan and Spain are not that far.

Although women carry a separate account with little money, the husband will find out just when they make the Income Statement and the interest is reflected leaving his wife's money, which if high will signal that has a lot saved or if it is low, assuming that there poco.Lo say there is tb. income each year, is not Alain? How much you have left, if so, to pay for or return? Simple curiosidad.Gracias. A kiss.

go! so what happens in shin-chan is normal right? that things ^ ^

Well, I think that if both agree to do so, I see very well.

Is there a reverse model in Japan?, Ie women working and husband in charge of housework and managing money. A salary-woman perhaps?

Is the system wrong macho men get screwed themselves in the most stupid, while they think they fuck the woman locking her home.

A bit of "normalcy" at home and transparency never hurts. I could never live like us and that my partner and me.

Decide course ... all the expenses of agreement is often a source of disagreement. I know a couple is separated because he is not free to squander their money on whatever you like, read "What if I want to buy a boat?, She will not let me". The trouble is that in this particular case, I guess he ruined it again sooner or later, because they are rich.

I do not seem so strange, do not carry it either ends you have to make a payment. But usually in Spain any member data of the pair is what keeps track of the accounts and are generally women. That if man does not have a wage but a limit, we reach an agreement than they can spend each week and this has its own credit cards,. But usually the household bills still carrying the women.

At my parents, who only worked him, money has always given my mother. My father entered partly into account (payroll) and some brought an envelope (with not too much I do not think) that stayed on for a bit (like the tip) and the rest my mother down to the bank.
My father would never have seen keep accounts from home, my mother invested, moving the money, got, take out as needed.
Account Access lso two, but my father rarely rarely made use of it.
It would appear that if the woman who is at home she be in charge of organizing the accounts, without as much secrecy as there, okay, but ... it's logical, right?

Would that work tubiese me, and we could live alone with my husband's salary. Signed NOW! I bow to the working life .. I have a family and devote myself to it!! By choice!! liability is so labor .

For in my house they handle both the money and ask and consult to spend. Recently my father bought a veneer thing without asking and my mother was angry, because we do not understand how you can spend the money the couple deciding one.

Honestly, I feel awful not mature enough both to administer.

I see well I if it were not for my girlfriend and I arrive mid-month and that I do not live with her not-administer the truth I spend money without knowing I am very moody all I see I like

If that is strange ... if I and my companion tenermos separate accounts and each has access to the other ... but we never make use of the Curious "custom" one saúdo

Most likely the woman go on a spree with the money diverted jejeje, well ehhh you have a hard time

We'll have to send to the Accounts Four whites.

I see there are a variety of opniones, which is a rare and others that it is normal. As always just different habit and you always think that their ways are the best.

Miriam: Here the statement of income you make it the same company.

I see the truth as well, I'm from an industrialized city of Mexico (Mexicali) and is full of Japanese and other foreign companies, and the truth is that the chiefs of the company (Japanese) are known to be very vevedores haha, maybe ams is wise to have women totally in charge of the money>. <

For what you pay for the husband do not see weird. At least before, and my parents still do. The salary of both (the 2 work) will cost a joint account and my mother is what gives my father a semanada (paid weekly) for coffee and gastillos, the 2 have access to the card, but is based in the confidence that goal is not hand without mutual consent. And so is control over expenses and know how will the family economy. Even with my partner I do not see it not strange.
And as they say the hidden accounts are special cases ..

Hello, I started following your blog when we decided to travel to Japan to race, and believe me, we've been quite useful! thank you very much for this wonderful blog!

Even if you say that this is a Japanese tradition, in some houses of Andalucia, and specifically in the mine is very normal for my parents to enter their monthly salary into a common account, but my mother really is what keeps the accounts of the house, she handles the card, she takes the money, and she spends a day paguilla my father to have something in your purse, in fact, with that paguilla, my father saved for birthday gifts from my mother ... or my father the bill does not touch it, not because this allowed him far! simply because it was so long that my mother knows better manage household bills.

Elsewhere in Spain when you go for tapas with your wife the man withdraws money from your wallet, there are many cases in andalucia (like my parents) that my mother would spend money under the table to my father and pay, but my mother takes money Seems to me a curious tradition!.

(Although my mother does not diverted money hidden .. that's for sure!)

Interestingly, the article is really excellent, always surprised me learn a lot by reading the blogs, you never stop learning about the customs of japan, congratulations and your effort not to fall!

Wow! * Really is a controversial issue that opened hehehe!
good is true in Mexico goes something like this is given the money
wing wife, except that the husband keeps his expenses,
and the woman manages the rest or well that's what happens in my family.,
hohoho ^ _ ^!

Greetings from Mexico I love your super cute blog
xao =]

As a Japanese woman I want to be serious and fun, it's okay that qui is not in Spain! € or € okozukai besides, would work of course!

Out of feminism, if I have to work myself and my boyfriend is unemployed, that is, and vice versa, but in Japan (and Spain) it looks bad that she keep a man

In my country is the same, just not as exaggerated as oviamente always the Japanese, that is:
Father and mother have an account on behalf of the two, the wage goes to that account, and the mother takes the money forever. It is so great that the mother did not have to pay the wages to the father, but it tells you how much you can spend a week or a month, and if you have to buy something special the father must talk with the mother and get their approval. If you exceed the expenses of the month, open and non-insured anger, and after a gomen and hai! start the new month after-fight. This is the same, unless you have to give every day pay the mother, the mother says here how much to spend a day a week, month, and agreed between the two if there are any special expenses, the parent may make full use as the mother of your credit card (good or bad use or not).
Although the truth, I do not unusual that your wife tells you how much you owe and you should not spend, I also live in a land where women matriarchal home and the man sends silent.

Does not seem right but I do not seem bad. Let's see if I mean, have you gone to a casino or gambling or entertainment in Spain? Many are Asian (male). This prevents the men spend the money on partying and gambling. There are hardly any women in casinos (very rare). Prevent men spend money on vices, alcohol, prostitutes, young prostitutes for a Vuitton bag, etc ...

Okay, are sexist, and should not be so unless it was agreed between the husband and wife (I mean do not because they all do) or because the man has a problem (or woman, and bring the money man of the house).

The problems are removed, become other if the woman has no idea of ​​managing or spend it on what you want. It's another kind of risk. But who are we to tell them what is right or wrong, just like here is the manner of killing bulls at parties, where women take the money from the house and most do not work.